Mitch, I appreciate you taking the time to engage with my thoughts and to look at my work. Substance matters to both of us, and I respect that you’ve written extensively on this topic.

You’re right—no single article captures the full essence of codependency. My intent wasn’t to diminish your framing but to highlight how the larger family system plays a role in shaping and reinforcing these dynamics. The way codependency manifests isn’t just about an individual’s fear of being alone—it’s deeply embedded in relational patterns learned early on. And while fear of sobriety may not cause addiction, addressing what makes a person terrified to let go of dysfunctional relational patterns is key to lasting change.

I see where you’re coming from regarding semantics, but language shapes how we conceptualize healing. Saying someone needs to "fix" codependency often implies a personal defect rather than a learned survival strategy—something many families I work with have deeply internalized. My goal is to shift the conversation toward building healthy interdependence, rather than reinforcing shame-based narratives that keep people stuck.

Regarding my comment on your post—I see your point. I wasn’t looking to advertise but to engage in meaningful dialogue about a complex issue that we both care about. I respect the work you do, and if our perspectives differ, I see that as an opportunity for deeper discussion rather than contradiction. If you’d be open to a conversation, I’d welcome it.

Looking forward to continued discussion. 👍