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Breaking Free: Transforming Control into Connection with Family WELLth Management
Learn actionable steps to transform control into collaboration.
Understanding Control: A Barrier to Healthy Relationships
Control in relationships is one of the most insidious dynamics affecting family well-being. At its core, controlling behavior stems from unresolved insecurities and a need to manage external environments to feel safe. Unfortunately, this behavior often masquerades as care or helpfulness, creating conflict and emotional distance within families. For families striving to build emotional wealth through the Family WELLth framework, understanding and addressing controlling behavior is critical to fostering healthier connections.
Marriage and Family Therapist Becky Whetstone, Ph.D., explores this dynamic in her insightful article, “Why Controlling People Don’t Know They’re Controlling.” Dr. Whetstone emphasizes that controlling individuals often perceive their actions as benevolent, believing they are “helping” others. However, this false benevolence can result in frustration, resentment, and damaged relationships. Recognizing and addressing these tendencies is crucial for family healing and growth.
