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A Path to Freedom for Families Impacted by Addiction
Letting Go of the Illusion of Control
Finding Peace in Letting Go
As a family coach with over 20 years of experience supporting families impacted by addiction, I’ve learned that one of the most powerful things we can do is let go of the illusion of control.
I know how hard this is. As parents, we feel responsible. We believe we should be able to control or at least influence our loved one’s behavior. So when attempts to help fail, we blame ourselves and try harder to “fix” things.
The problem is, with addiction, the control is an illusion. Your loved one’s substance use is driven by complex psychological and neurological processes. You did not cause it, nor can you cure it.
Letting go of this illusion of control is incredibly difficult. It means accepting powerlessness in the face of great suffering. But once you take this leap of faith, you’ll find freedom. Freedom from shame, anger, and the fruitless pursuit of control. You’ll gain energy to focus on your own health and self-care. And you’ll be able to build a healthier relationship with your loved one.
